Day 75- Support One Another Right Now

[Bunny Berry]

There has defnitely been something in the air, and I let this video stew before I posted it publicly to RawFu. But here it is. You guys know that I speak my mind, and I don't want this community to be a place where I have to feel censored by what I say, what I discuss, in order to shoot happy rainbows out of my ears. THere are pepole in this community fighting cancer, abuse, lifestyle diseases, mental illness, and bad days. And if we can't talk about them as a community, then what can we talk about?

Fod logs are only so interesting for a week or so. So, let it all hang out. I might be the only speaker on the raw food circuit who is openly on anti-depressants. And so what? I encourage all feedback on the subject. Goddess Durga has made me open my eyes to a possibility that there is hope, and that I should stop limiting my thinking to "trying to find somehing else that works." That's why we're all here, to share our expriences, warts and all until we find out true path.

Thank you for being my beautiful and honest friends. And for having constructive things to share. I love you for that.

[Dianne]

What a damn shame.I can't believe people are badmouthing this site.In the start you said no nasty talking,but guess people can't read.I am a fan and you know that.I would love to talk on and on with you Bunny.I enjoyed our little time we had talking at RawUnion~...Take Care ~ :-)~Man you are up late its 10:56 P.M. as I type this...HUGS...Big Hugs

[doingraw]

I was so sad to hear this when I watched this video on youtube this morning. For other human beings to put down somone because they believe your doing a disservice to the raw community. Bunny, there is a reason that thousands of people follow you on this site, they see your honesty mixed with love and kindness. Don't ever give up on your passion because of what a few people have said. It's their issue not yours! You must know that the raw community loves you! I thought raw was meant to be about releasing egos and being open to new things. I can't believe some peoples attitudes are so the opposite.

[kathryn]

lovely Bunny, i so love and support you. i can't even count the number of times i've been down and your videos have brightened my day. you may not have logged the greatest number of pounds lost on raw food, you may not have all of the kinks worked out, and you may not be perfect (who is!?), but you are an inspiration.

[Cindy]

Hi Bunny,

You *are* a raw foods leader and *do* deserve to be. :)

Yes, yes and more yes! Personally, it means a bunch to me to see you be yourself with your ups and downs and that you document the journey and share it openly and honestly with us.

I find those that like to shoot down leadership. It happened a lot when I was very active doing my ending racism blog and even today with the few posts I'm doing there, people criticize for various reasons. "How can a white woman advocate for ending white racism, who do you think you are etc etc etc". And it slowed me down at times. When it first happened it hurt my feelings a lot and then I realized, with friends' help, that I really had to keep going and do like you say do what my heart said, share the love anyways and such. Actually, as I write this, I realize I actually don't post there much and still get "hate" mail but maybe it's time I really looked inside and decide if I want to be posting more often there again. (listeningforchange.blogspot.com)

And have my good days. I heard you saying that you'll be like in your stride things going good and then someone wants to tell you what you really need to be doing and such.

I think what you have here is really powerful and hope you keep being yourself and following the vision. I also have taken the cue from you and try to be "ordinary" person doing the raw thing I try to post the simplicity and ease and sometimes the struggle. That's a lot in thanks to you and how easy you make it!

As a result i have a lot more time to spend living my life and spend less time worrying about a perfect blog post. It's great! At teh same time, I have some documentation and the "examined" life I so treasure.

I'm rambling.

Being on antidepressants is where you're at and it's not for anyone else to judge or take an inventory of. Also, anything is possible. Staying on them or tapering off eventually, staying on them, finding other tools, YOU will find your way and meanwhile you're healing your life and giving other people hope, imho. You continue to model moving forward to what is right for you and that is Beautiful! xoxo

I myself was on antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds for a while and eventually tapered off with doctor supervision. I've found alot of holistic tools and definitely use them regularly. I know how difficult and actually painful it was to go through this and I almost didn't survive it Bunny. So, I don't ever rush someone or try to tell anyone they should or shouldn't do such and such within context of in your case, the awesome day by day steps you continue to take towards greater health and deepening community, sharing the love.

So, anyways, it's just not appropriate! *smiles* People, okay, here's my lecture, people, if you're (or if I am) pointing a finger at someone else, there's three pointing back at yourself. If something bothers you in someone else it's usually a hook within yourself that is bothering you about yourself. So ... for me, I look in the mirror and work on what's inside me that feels so bothered and wants so bad to try to change someone else.

Or like Bunny says, maybe need to go elsewhere lest one's dogma gets run over by the karma. LOL *shrugs*

(What's got into me tonite, must be that I loved meeting Bunny at rawfu.)

[Debbie]

Wow Bunny, you brought tears to my eyes. I think one of the reasons why many of us don't open up is because we feel so vulnerable and afraid of those people who have the nerve to criticize and pass judgment instead of provide support, love and guidance. It breaks my heart to hear that you have received these nasty emails. Frankly it pisses me off! You have every right to be here and to be a leader! It is because of your honesty, and your realism that the majority of us have supported you in this role, and want and need you in this role. And I know that the majority of us here want to be there for you too, and to protect you from those individuals that don't belong here. We are definitely here to help each other!

I know for me personally, it has taken me a long time to really come forth with who I am. I am very committed to this raw lifestyle - but definitely am not perfect by any means. In fact, I too have been struggling a lot these past few months. I want to share more, but am intimidated by individuals like the ones that have sent you these obnoxious, non-spiritual messages! They certainly have missed the boat on what this whole forum, and "lifestyle" for that matter, is about. I'm sorry this has happened to you! I hope we can weed these shitty people out! Or better yet, maybe turn them around and let them see how wrong they are in their behavior, apologize, and join us instead of hurting us.

Well...please continue your crusade with us. Please don't let these people get you down. Please know that the majority of us look to you, I look to you...I share your love and spirit with others in hopes to inspire them to join us. You mean a lot to us, to me, in this journey. Please know you have my full support Bunny! And thank you again for being here for us! Bless you my friend! Peace! :)

[astrorainfall]

Oh Bunny, I'm sorry to hear about the horrible feedback you got. I think you are worthy of being a leader of Rawfu and your weight loss is still GREAT! I mean, 40 pounds in one year is very good! And about the naysayers, just delete their emails. If it's not constructive criticism, just don't bother. I write a blog and I get weird/hateful messages sometimes but I don't give any power to them. I just move on because I know what I'm doing is fine by me :)

I love this forum the most because it's real. Not just the great support but I see real people issues being talked about here and that's why I like it.

And your videos are just awesome! Keep up the good work!

[inspiredej]

Bunny,it can be a challenge to be at the 'leading edge' of something. Often when people feel intimated or fearful of change, they strike out at others. It is not up to us to change those who are not happy with us, ( make sense?) It tells more about where the people who are writing negative things about others that they are unhappy inside themselves somehow.

Keep doing what you are doing Bunny! I have seen so many MORE positive posts of how you inspire and uplift people JUST BY BEING WHO YOU ARE!

Be Authentic, be YOU. That's all you can be.

Peace, light and love
EJ

[zUzU]

=^..^= sometimes i wonder about people. Sigh.

Why must people be cruel? My mother would remind me to be glad I cannot understand their way of thinking. That I would need to be a bit like them to truly understand their whys- when they do unkind things. Please hit the delete button for every nasty note those people have placed in your inbox. They are wrong to say such things.

Beth, you are the reason I am here on RawFu. You. Mz. Bunny-Beth.
Most new-to-veggie-ism folks want to convert the world. They preach and push ... I believe they are mostly well meaning, but often it turns people running and screaming in the other direction. Most learn with time to give it a rest and only offer advice when asked, but some do not. From the beginning you have accepted everyone for who they are right where they are and didn't try to change them. You have instead offered the knowledge for them to help themselves.

If you have doubt even once that you are not changing a bit of the raw world for the better ... stop it! You are touching more lives in a positive way than you know. Rather than an or else attitude, you are spreading a goodness about raw foodism that is bigger than your heart. And that I suspect, is huge.

Every life touches every other. No matter how small, or briefly, in kindness (or hate), every contact we make will be carried intended or not forward ... and have impact on another life. Like a pebble tossed in a pond it causes ripples outward growing larger and larger as each of those lives touch others & on into infinity. You never know where your smile or words will go or what life it might change down the road. We don't know what the change will be. We control only the initial message. Kindness. Be kind to one another. Smile. Open a door.

We are all teachers. And we are all students.

This site is like none other and that is the wonderfulness of it. It is the style of your teachings ... Like a round table. Everyone is made to feel an equal. You are real and aren't afraid to admit to being human. Your encouragement of others to accept being human & love themselves this very moment, (flaws and all) and to grow from that acceptance ... is a gift.

I believe in you, Beth. And I know I am not alone.
xx love, zU

[Mandie]

Bunnie, the majority of us in this community love you to pieces. All those mean messages in your inbox really surprises me. I commend you for what you are doing and if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have had the motivation to continue on the path that I am on now and thank you from the bottom of my heart for that. Don't let those mean (jealous?) people upset you and bring you down and hurt you. It doesn't matter what they think, but how you feel and where you are in this life and universe. I have seen your first video and see you now and see a brilliant radiance that wasn't there in the beginning that there is now. I have no question in my mind that you are on this lifestyle. People can be so mean and closed minded. We love you Bunnie. Please don't let them stress you out and bring you down. Sending lots of love and hugs! ~Mandie

[Rawdrop]

Hey darling.....

You are where you are, because you are honest, loving and supportive of all those around you who are on a similar journey. Just know that you are an inspiration to soooo many of us out here that needed a down to earth real world role model to look up to.... I think you deserve to be where you are 100%, because you have fought your way through to be there.... This community was started by YOU, who else would deserve to be there when it is YOU who did it?

Those that spreads doubts are the ones that are jealous, and wish they had your charisma and abilities.... and in their jealousy, they need to rip, shred and try to destroy.....

We love you, think you are fabulous, wonderful and an inspiration.... If it wasn't for you sharing with us, many would have given up... So stay strong and stay true to who YOU are....

Much love and appreciation...

Chrissy

[Darcia]

I recommend "ThePresence Process" by Michael Brown for emotional healing - check out his website theprresenceportal.com.

There is always more than one way to view a complaint. What is the message? Don't shoot the messenger?

[jane]

Love it, love it, love it!
You go honey, well said.
Here for you any time as I know you are for me.
This site is exceptional as are you. It is real, down to earth, supportive, non judgemental and inspirational. A rare breath of fresh air. Love it, love you.